Now before you dismiss this topic of love as some airy-fairy thing, I highly encourage you to read on and keep an open mind.
As humans, we all desire to find love and share our lives with someone special. You may think that it is as simple as just searching for a partner, but finding love can be much trickier than you realize.
Not only this; but when you do actually find love with someone you can find that relationships are much trickier than you realize. You need to learn how to live together, how to experience things together and of course how to grow as people.
There are plenty of things that you need to think about and work through to find love or keep love. However, one of the most important things to do (one that you may not even realize) is to love the most important person of all. Yourself.
Sounds selfish right? Well, the truth is that unless you learn to love yourself, loving anyone else, or even reality for that matter, is going to be incredibly hard to do.
To help you along your way, I have put together the reasons why you should love yourself and the best ways that you can do this.
It helps you to heal
Love can hurt, even when you are in a relationship. One of the hardest things to do is to heal from any kind of hurt. This is especially true if you feel that you are not able to fully accept the healing process and how valuable you are as a person.
When you love yourself you are going to find it much easier to accept things that have happened and move on. Not only will this help you to live in the present, but it will also help you to acknowledge that bad emotions are okay to feel and that one day you will get over them.
It allows you to approve yourself rather than seeking approval from others
One of the worst things that you can do is seek constant approval from those around you; particularly if this person is your partner or a potential date. This sets you up to fail and means that you are going to come across as somewhat desperate.
You are also going to find that you seeking approval is going to place an additional amount of pressure on the other person in your life. This can lead to resentment and leave them feeling frustrated.
It helps you to have healthy relationships
Love shouldn’t leave you feeling scared or anxious. Love shouldn’t be about control or abuse. Unfortunately for some people, they think that love means that you should accept unhealthy relationships.
When you have plenty of love for yourself, then you are not going to accept that this is a proper way to be treated. You will not be fearful that you are going to be left alone; simply because you already know that the most important person will be loving you (you of course).
It helps you to love others
This post is all about loving yourself, but you should also make sure that you know how to love those around you too. Learning to love takes time and practice and what better place to start than with yourself?
Not only will this help you in the long-term with your relationships and how you show those that matter most how special they are to you. It will also help you to understand why you should be taking care of yourself and how you can do it too.
The best ways to improve your self-love
Now you know just how important it is to work on the amount that you love yourself, you are likely to want to know more about how best to work on your self-love. The first thing that you should try to do is to learn how to have fun by yourself. Appreciating your own company and enjoying some alone time is going to really boost how much you care for yourself.
It will stop you actively searching validation and company from those around you and will ensure that you always focus on yourself.
Another important thing for you to do is to be a little kinder to yourself. You need to learn to forgive yourself for any mistakes that you may have made in the past. You shouldn’t hold onto feelings of regret or anger about things that have happened in the past. After all, they are in the past and there is nothing that you can do about them. Instead, you should be accepting that we all make mistakes from time to time and give yourself a bit of a break too.
One final way that you can try to learn to love yourself more is to say no to other people around you. It is incredibly hard to say no to someone, especially when you care about them; but this is the most valuable thing to do. Saying no affirms that you are taking care of yourself and that you are not afraid to have your best interests at heart. It also means that there is a much better chance that you will be treated better by those around you too.
Learning to love yourself is something that every person should do.
Not only will it show you your true value as a person; but it will also allow you to learn more about why taking care of yourself is so important. When you want to put yourself higher in a relationship, then you can ensure that you not only find love but that the love you have is of the best quality possible too.